So you were using LAV splitter before the re-install and it worked OK (over the network) but it doesn't now, and MPC-HC - which also uses LAV - has the same problems as MP. Kodi does everything with it's own internal processing - it doesn't use DirectShow filters etc.
This points to differences in LAV settings, or network related issues.
I notice in the LAV video settings that you are using 'DXVA2 (copyback)' - have you tried 'DXVA2 (native)' ?
This points to differences in LAV settings, or network related issues.
I notice in the LAV video settings that you are using 'DXVA2 (copyback)' - have you tried 'DXVA2 (native)' ?